Great Leaders are Made, Not Born


My experiences in Leadership began on my childhood. That means I still try to lead my self well, before I lead another people. While I studied in Junior highschool, I didn’t have enough confidence to be a leader in some extracurricular activities. I thought that I had to studied from my leader, then gave them “score” for their strong and weakness in leading. I learned from my friend and aften gave him some advices from my opinion in his leading. He said that it really helped him, but actually I still didn’t enough brave to be a leader in the team.

My mom always talks about being a strong, independent woman and how I have to go out into the world and survive by myself. She was a big help with me. When this opportunity came by, I was proud of myself to find out someone actually recommended me for it. I get to help myself be a better person. It will also teach me to work with people and get a new team.

Then, I continued my education in the most favourite Senior Highschool in my beloved town, Pacitan. I’ve got my confidence in leading there, by tried to always pro active rather than reactive. I’ve tried to provide consistent motivation to my team in Scout to attained excellence, and quality in our performance. I’ve tried to always looking for ways to improve performances, productions, and standards. Being a leader is not only about command, but also giving an example. It will motivate the team to move and improve themselves.

One principe that always remembered by me is : “Great leaders are made, not born.” That’s why I tried to learn from all mistake I’ve done. I’m sure that leadership is a PROCCESS.

The most precious thing for me in leading was happened in my college. I’ve studied in Faculty of Engineering which majority in male. As the only girls in the Head of Department, I often met difficulties when leading my friends in different backgrounds and talents.

I think that the first reason people give for not wanting to go to a support group is the perception that it’s just a bunch of people getting together to whine and complain. While they need to be able to bring up problems, I always need to bring the focus back to finding solutions. I can’t allow the meeting to degenerate into an anger or self-pity session. When a problem is presented, encourage other friends (I called them as friends, not members) to come up with positive ways to deal with it.

I always sure that : “Be a better listener than a talker”. They need to be able to share their problems with someone who understands what they’re going through but they don’t need to hear all of my problems. I hope it will also connect with other support group leaders. Whether I meet in person, talk on the phone, or communicate through e-mail, it is helpful to develop relationships. Even though everyone needs someone to talk to, someone to commiserate with them, but I can’t be that person for every member of this group. I will urge them to find someone in the group with whom they could exchange phone numbers and agree to be a mutual support system.

I always try to lookout for other potential leaders. When I’ve found a friend in team who seems to have leadership qualities, I consider training him to back me up in case I’m unable to attend a meeting. Even if I have a co-leader, I think it’s good to have someone in training just in case. I’ve seen circumstances when both leaders were unable to attend (eg., one is on class and the other suddenly becomes ill) and the backup had to jump in and lead the meeting.

I’ve asked for help when I need it. I think it’s easy to fall into a pattern of doing everything myself. I have a serious talk with the team and make sure they understand that the team depends on everyone’s participation. If several friends each take responsibility for one small job, then no one person will feel overwhelmed. Specific tasks will vary with the team. Some examples include: bringing a snack to share ,sending announcements of meetings, mailing thank-you notes to speakers, making copies of handouts, etc.

As a support group leader, I need to be prepared when the moment presents itself. Now, I still learn all I can about how I should handle a suicide situation. I hope that I will increase my leadership by always learn to be a better person in all situation. I always remember, leadership experience isn't about what I have done — it's about what I have helped other people do.

by NISA ^^

amazing team!

amazing team!


  1. #1 by oeoel on January 26, 2010 - 8:47 am

    good.. one of the future leader.. ^,^b

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